The Positive Ego

The Positive Ego:

If ego makes you suffer so much from its misperceptions and reactions-anger, sadness, showoff, provocations, then why ego is there in the first place...What should be the true purpose of ego? What is the advantage of ego toward achieving the peace? Why ego mostly is on false pride and show off side. Is it ego true function?

How we can prevent ego to act misperceived and thus press hard on us-to suffer? How can we instruct our ego to behave such a way that we do not suffer and could keep intact our sanity?

To me, it seems ego is to let us take the optimum stand on a situation of the moment when we sense we should not take an extreme –or so called perfect stand. Of course, ego motivates us to have courage to say “no” when it is utmost needed so as to save us from moral degradation.

May be we can define purpose of ego like this: Ego is not for taking advantage of others but also not allowing others to take any advantage of us. Mindful guided ego.

Another way, ego purpose may be to keep a balance of our response to be enough assertive-on our fair stand- so other do not take advantage of our fairness – as being assumed to be our weakness.

To show ego under a situation require courage and emotional maturity...Ego thus is strength which needs to be used to protect ourselves from other blackmails rather to blackmail them. Ego is rather protective tool but occasionally may be used as counter threat. To use it this way we are to be careful and never apply it in haste.

This is about the positive ego. It is about facing negative ego of others? Is not necessary? How to be assertive when other ego becomes aggressive?

Your ego is advisor to you on occasions; ego is good assistant and encourages you, not to surrender to other ego negative intentions. Your ego saves you from their bad intentions toward you. It help you keep on to the maturity of emotions and do not give up to the thoughts of unsafe obstacles into your purposes and movements.

Mind it! Ego is in you but you are not ego. Let us not use ego as a pride. Shifted to positive ego, you feel now more calm, cool and comfortable in all aspects of your life.

Chaknop Khullar

9-12-2012