We feel bad as we do not agree or we have different point of view. We feel we should feel bad as long as we persist on disagreements. We consider the experience of disagreements or opposing each other should be bitter experience for each other. We are held in bad feelings as long this opposition turned bitterness continue.
Once we realize that we hold different point of view, not necessarily hold the points of bitterness toward each other, we begin dissolving the bitterness together and each other.
Disagreements are normal, like or not. My question is what happens on, what is being said on either side, that it turns to feel bad. That mean, we have more in habit of feel bad than in a hobby of feel good.
Sometimes, the spouses feel their husband trigger them to feel bad –lest they become themselves trigger to the husband to feel bad. Feel bad is like playing football. You play it back to the opponent when it is send to you. You do your best to return the football to opposing goal.
Observe on the experience of this bitterness. Soon you may realize the futility of bitterness and you will intend to cleanse the bitterness from you. What you experience may be good or bad but what you realize or visualize is always good.
Why should I compel the other to listen me, experience me? I feel you may feel burden to listen me; so it is my duty to release you of the burden to know me. Released from this compulsion, you may feel better be happy or, at least, you can’t feel upset.
I should try my loved ones to be happy. But I cannot assure them any happiness. They should take trials on happiness themselves. This is possible if they take the issue, in between, as easy as possible. Easier the issue, trimmer is the issue.
It is not what is wrong or right, there should be a need to know, what the mutual purpose is. If our purpose is to live with love together, why not we, then, choose love rather then the war - even when we are to resolve any dispute, in between, of any proportion.
Chaknop Khullar
17-10-2012
