The
Positive Ego:
If
ego makes you suffer so much from its misperceptions and
reactions-anger, sadness, showoff, provocations, then why ego is
there in the first place...What should be the true purpose of ego?
What is the advantage of ego toward achieving the peace? Why ego
mostly is on false pride and show off side. Is it ego true function?
How
we can prevent ego to act misperceived and thus press hard on us-to
suffer? How can we instruct our ego to behave such a way that we do
not suffer and could keep intact our sanity?
To
me, it seems ego is to let us take the optimum stand on a situation
of the moment when we sense we should not take an extreme –or so
called perfect stand. Of course, ego motivates us to have courage to
say “no” when it is utmost needed so as to save us from moral
degradation.
May
be we can define purpose of ego like this: Ego is not for taking
advantage of others but also not allowing others to take any
advantage of us. Mindful guided ego.
Another
way, ego purpose may be to keep a balance of our response to be
enough assertive-on our fair stand- so other do not take advantage of
our fairness – as being assumed to be our weakness.
To
show ego under a situation require courage and emotional
maturity...Ego thus is strength which needs to be used to protect
ourselves from other blackmails rather to blackmail them. Ego is
rather protective tool but occasionally may be used as counter
threat. To use it this way we are to be careful and never apply it in
haste.
This
is about the positive ego.
It is about facing negative ego of others? Is not necessary? How to
be assertive when other ego becomes aggressive?
Your
ego is advisor to you on occasions; ego is good assistant and
encourages you, not to surrender to other ego negative intentions.
Your ego saves you from their bad intentions toward you. It help you
keep on to the maturity of emotions and do not give up to the
thoughts of unsafe obstacles into your purposes and movements.
Mind
it! Ego is in you but you are not ego. Let us not use ego as a pride.
Shifted to positive ego, you feel now more calm, cool and comfortable
in all aspects of your life.
Chaknop
Khullar
9-12-2012
